**ARDAAS FOR A WEDDING PARTY???**
…what would happen if Guru Ji really turned up at a venue to find Sikhs dancing, drinking alcohol, eating meat and listening to vulgar music? |
ਅਰਦਾਸ ਤਾਂ ਕਰ ਲਈ ਪਰ ਜੇ ਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਸੱਚਮੁਚ ਆ ਗਏ ਫਿਰ ਕੀ ਬਣੂ ? |
The Anand Karaj (or ‘Ceremony of Bliss’) is the actual and only matrimonial rite for the Sikhs. However, either out of ignorance in thinking it is wrongly ‘Sabhyachar’ (culture), or simply due to influence in imitating the modern west, many misguided Sikhs are more focussed on the so-called ‘after wedding’ parties. The majority of such parties go against Gurmat by their very nature and activity, and set dangerous examples for youngsters and future generations.
In India, the guests assemble from morning at the “wedding palace” whilst only a handful of family members go to the Gurdwara Sahib for the Anand Karaj. In other countries, for example Canada/USA, they have the so-called “wedding reception” on either the evening of or the day after the Anand Karaj. In the UK, it is the afternoon party immediately following the Anand Karaj in what they refer to as the “banqueting hall”…and so forth.
What’s concerning is the trend of the Granthi Singh doing an Ardaas for the family after the Anand Karaj requesting Guru Ji to give their blessings for the remaining activities to follow. “Maharaj Ji the Anand Karaj has taken place, please bless the newly married couple, and now by being present with your Sevaks give your blessings for the completion of the remaining activities” – this is often heard during the Ardaas at the Gurdwara Sahib after the Anand Karaj is complete. These so-called “remaining activities” they often refer to are the anti-Gurmat after-party functions. In fact, there are now said to be many instances where before these so-called wedding parties commence, they actually ask for blessings from the venue stages before the dancing and partying gets going.
The question that needs to be asked from those who foolishly do such an Ardaas is whether they want Guru Sahib Ji to actually come and dance with them? They ask for Guru Ji to be present with them, but IF Guru Ji were to really be present with them at these parties, what would Guru Ji think? What would our father Guru Gobind Singh Ji think looking at a venue full of Sikhs partaking in anti-Gurmat activities? Are the disgraceful activities of dancing, eating meat, drinking alcohol, watching singers and listening to vulgar music the actions of the Guru’s Sikhs? Are such actions what the great revolutionary Guru Gobind Singh Ji had taught?
The Guru’s teachings were for the betterment of society – regardless of race, creed or religion. Sikhs were wise, intellectuals and fighters for righteousness, but they were certainly not Bhangra and Gidda dancers nor were they alcoholics. Why are we joking with our Guru? We are we cheating and practising hypocrisy. In effect, why are we doing Pakhand with Ardaas? The anti-Panthic agencies are undoubtedly at play in employing their deep-rooted schemes to damage the nation. However, the agencies are not the ones forcing us to go and book banqueting hall palaces, dancers, singers or DJ’s. This part of our spiritual and social downfall is a result of our own misguided decisions and lack of intellect in accordance to Gurmat – perhaps at least this much is something we as Sikhs need to control ourselves.
Let’s start bringing awareness to our own and wider families and friends circles.
ਕਰਮ ਧਰਮ ਪਾਖੰਡ ਜੋ ਦੀਸਹਿ ਤਿਨ ਜਮੁ ਜਾਗਾਤੀ ਲੂਟੈ ||
Karam Dharam Paakhandd Jo Deesehi Tin Jam Jaagaatee Loottai