Below is a video clip from Kathaa (discourse) by Bhai Paramjeet Singh Khalsa. He is one of my favourite Kathaavachiks because I really like the way he conveys Gurmat and does Parchaar in an easy and approachable way. Guru Kirpaa kare. The video clip is about Sikh identity:
The young man told Giani jee that when it was the 300th anniversary of the Khalsa (1999), his father passed away. He said, “My two sisters were married off and only me and mother lived at home. When I grew up I passed by BA and joined the police at Baba Bakala village in Amritsar district.” On the 300th anniversary of the Khalsa, his mother said to him:
“This house no longer looks like a Sikh house. You father is no more. Before, because your father had a turban on his head people would say that this is a Sikh house. Now your father has left this world, you are the only head of the house; but you have cut your hair and trimmed your beard. I have no identity whether I am a Sikh or another religion unless I wear a Dastaar (turban) and take Amrit, then my identity would be distinct. How will people know that this is a Sikh household?”
The mother folded her hands and told her son that she is not asking him to take Amrit but at least at least stop cutting his hair and wear a turban for her sake so that she could take Amrit. The son agreed to respect his mother’s wishes.
Everyday as his beard grew, the young man thought whilst looking in the mirror: “shall I cut my hair today or tomorrow?” But he never got around to trimming his beard. By now he had a Dastaar on his head and his mother was Amritdhari. Giani jee comments that, “It is an unfortunate thing that no one highlights these positive things that happen in society. Instead the news and public focus on negative examples.”
As soon as the young man’s beard had fully grown he didn’t feel like cutting it. He did Ardaas to Guru Gobind Singh jee, “O Kalgee-dhar Sache Paatishaah! Please protect me! Please guard me! When I sit with my friends they will say that have I not found a shaving blade and will say “shall we give you a blade”. They will laugh…” It is our own people who laugh at those who keep Sikhi Saroop. Someone keeps their Kesh and wears a Dastaar and so-called Sikhs laugh and ridicule them by calling them “Giani” (with a derogatory overtone), “Baba” and taunt them. May Guru Sahib bless us all with wisdom.
The man then re-entered the barber’s shop. He sat on the barber’s chair ready to get his hair cut, and then again the light in his eyes went and he began to feel dizzy. After the second, then third time of going outside and coming back inside the barber’s shop, he decided the fourth time not to shave. He then did Ardaas, “O Kalgee-dhar Sache-Paatishaah! You are Great! Are you that close to a Sikh that you heard my mother’s Ardaas! My mother had said that may my son never cut his hair. O Guru Gobind Singh! You loved me so much that every time I think of cutting my hair I go blind.”
Giani jee says, “Think carefully! If Guru Gobind Singh jee showed so much love and came to his Sikh, then think how much Guru jee loves Kesh (sacred hair)? But the sad thing is that today’s Sikh has lost the plot and made it an interest to distort his appearance and cut his hair…”